Finding your why is a big part in staying motivated to continue bettering yourself both mentally and physically. That’s why I wanted to go over my approach toward “finding your why”
Earlier this week I was asked this question by one of my webcam training clients:
“This isn’t really related to yoga, but what do you do when you lack the motivation to work out?”
I’ve had two webcam training sessions in the last couple of weeks where we went beyond techniques and workouts and got into finding the motivation to work out instead.
Yeah, we can talk about ways to trick your body into starting a workout if you don’t have the energy. But what we really need to do is figure out why you don’t have the energy to work out in the first place. The answer most likely doesn’t have to do with your fitness, even if you don’t consider yourself in great shape.
Family drama, unpleasant work situations, and unfulfilled expectations are all examples of things that bring us down, and as they apply to fitness, make us think to ourselves, “I don’t want to work out today.”
So what do you do? How can you give yourself the motivation you need to work out?
The Fear Approach to Finding Your Why
One way is to consider what will happen if you don’t do your workout. What deep-set, internal fears motivate you to exercise?
- I don’t want my body to have aches and pains during. -> I fear pain.
- I don’t want to get injured. -> I fear pain.
- I don’t want to experience the guilt I get from not working out. -> I would feel like a failure if I didn’t workout. -> I don’t want to fail.
- I don’t want to backtrack on the efforts I’ve made to improve my health. -> I could become less healthy and get hurt. -> I fear pain.
The list goes on, and these are just some examples. It could be helpful for you to write these out and figure out what you fear by not working out.
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The Success Approach to Finding Your Why
More powerful than fear, however, is the hope that your hard work will pay off in the form of success. More powerful than fear is your WHY for working out in the first place; what can be GAINED from working out – not what can be lost if you don’t. This is the most important source of motivation. So ask yourself: Why do I work out?
- I want to feel more confident. -> So I can be more successful. -> To feel fulfilled.
- I want to feel physically energized. -> To do what I want to do. -> To experience all of the greatness that life has to offer.
- I want to be as healthy as I can. -> To be physically capable, to endure hard times, to be strong for the people I can care about. -> I want to feel powerful.
- I want to have a better body. -> I want to feel good about myself.
Too many of us move through life without a clear purpose. More often than not, we spend our time dreading what we do to make ends meet (which happens to take up the majority of our time), and look forward to time spent outside of work. We avoid our job by partying and numbing the reality. We avoid our own life by becoming immersed in others’, such as when we watch a TV show or cheer for a sports team.
I’m not bashing you because you don’t like your job, or you want a better life.
I’m pointing out that this indifference to purpose in what you do for the majority of your waking hours conditions you to ignore purpose in the rest of your life.
(Maybe you don’t even know what your purpose is, but that’s a topic for another email.)
The result is that we don’t really know what the purpose of our workouts are either. We’re so accustomed to doing things without fulfilling our internal sense of purpose that we don’t even know how to realize fulfillment when we participate in activities in which we involve ourselves by choice.
Getting back to your lack of motivation in your workout – what are you doing it for? Figure this out, and you’ll have more success.
For more information on finding your why, I HIGHLY recommend you purchase the book Start With Why, by Simon Sinek. I read this book once per year to help me get a clear sense of my purpose and overall direction.
About the author, Dean Pohlman, Founder & CEO of Man Flow Yoga, Author of Yoga Fitness for Men, Expert on Yoga Fitness for Men.
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