Creating a Mindset of More Possibilities & Less Judgement | Dain Heer | Better Man Podcast Ep. 127

Dean Pohlman: Hey guys, it’s Dean. Welcome to the Better Man podcast. Today’s interview features Dane here, the founder of Access Consciousness, which he describes as where everything exists and nothing is judged, and the tools and techniques to access this for me. And this is teaching you about a mindset that you can embrace to help you break through possibilities. I know that sounds like a lot, and it’s kind of hard to explain, so I just want to invite you to listen to it yourself and hopefully you can get something out of this.

Dean Pohlman: This really focuses on things, on a deeper, on a subconscious or on an energetic level. And if that sounds a little woowoo to you, give it a listen and it might make more sense. I enjoyed this conversation. I got a lot out of it. And, Dane is a he’s a really good guy. He’s a really genuine guy.

Dean Pohlman: He just he wants to help. And I’ve enjoyed having him on the podcast multiple times now. So give this a listen. I hope it inspires you to be a better man. Hey guys it’s Dean. Welcome back to the Better Man podcast today. I’ve got Doctor Dane hair here here here here, here.

Dr. Dain Heer: Here.

Dean Pohlman: Here. Today I’m here.

Dr. Dain Heer: With you.

Dean Pohlman: So I wanted to start off just by asking you to remind us the kind of work that you do and how how that can help us.

Dr. Dain Heer: It’s called access consciousness. And, you know, we’re not marketing geniuses. It’s in the name. You know, it’s about accessing more of the consciousness you are. And we have a definition for consciousness, which is where everything exists and nothing is judged. So fundamentally, it’s it’s about several things. One of which is it’s basically a set of tools and techniques for you to access the miraculous ness and the consciousness that’s already within you, so you can create the miraculous life.

Dr. Dain Heer: You know, you deserve that you haven’t been able to create so far. And we have all kinds of tools, all kinds of awarenesses. And it’s fundamentally is about going beyond judgment into a sense of possible parties in every area.

Dean Pohlman: Yeah, I it’s, I mean, so many of us and this is my own experience too. But, you know, until you do the personal work, until you do the introspective work to be aware of how you think about things in the inner voice in your head. I don’t think most people realize how judgy that voice, that voice can be and how, how debilitating it is not just from, you know, not just from a perspective of how you view other people, but recognizing the link between, you know, how you view other people and how that judgment inevitably applies to how you view yourself.

Dr. Dain Heer: Absolutely. And we the thing is, it’s like you said, we don’t realize how judgy that voice is. That’s with us all the time. And, you know, it applies in every area, any area in which you feel not happy, not light, not is you’re doing judgment of some form or another. And the funny part is, I’ll say that and then you’ll start judging you for having judgment, which is exactly what I’m talking about.

Dr. Dain Heer: You know, it’s like, right. And so the snake keeps biting its head, you know, and it’s like, so how do you stop the cycle? And what that boils down to is choice. So the other element of what’s essential is that we we recognize that if something is showing up in our life, there’s something that we have chosen that is creating it, because we also live in a world where people want to blame everyone and everything outside of them.

Dr. Dain Heer: And rather than go and rather than go, okay, if there’s something occurring in my life, I’m choosing it. What would it take to choose something different? And the difficulty when you’re blaming anyone or anything outside of you is you’re disempowering you. You’re making yourself a victim to something and right, live in a world in which you know that that’s very popular.

Dr. Dain Heer: It’s a very great way of going, blaming, you know, the billionaires and blaming the politicians and blaming the family and blaming. And it’s like, okay, well, what is the difficulty I see with that is I don’t judge that. Okay? I don’t see that as wrong. I just see it as very ineffective. What choice do I have? What choices can I make that I can’t even fathom that would actually allow me to change this?

Dean Pohlman: Yeah. That reminds me of, I mean, I’ve talked about this a few times. There’s a this is the Harvard Longevity study, or it’s, I can’t remember what exactly it’s called, but it’s a study that tracks people through their lives and it goes through, you know, their relationships and and whether or not they go to church and all these other things.

Dean Pohlman: And the the one thing that was the most important, I always mess this up. I don’t know if it was the quality of your relationships with. The other thing is, how much agency do you perceive in your own life? So how much control over your own life do you have? And so, you know, what you were just saying makes me think of, you know, the trade off between the short term benefit and the long term gain, which is, you know, you can feel better about yourself in the moment by absorbing yourself of responsibility.

Dean Pohlman: And most people don’t recognize when they do this. Most people aren’t recognizing when they’re essentially victimizing the self they blame it on, oh, it’s the situation with my boss. Or like, oh, if only my my partner were, more open to this, or if only I could do this or, you know, if only the government or whatever it is.

Dean Pohlman: But when you say that, you absolve yourself of responsibility in the moment and it feels good that you don’t have to take responsibility for it, whereas accepting responsibility for it is uncomfortable in the moment, but empowering and helpful in the long term. So it’s like it’s kind of like the trade off between doing exercise and not doing exercise.

Dean Pohlman: Like, yeah, you could you could go work out and it’ll be hard in the moment, but it’s harder long term when you don’t do the exercise.

Dr. Dain Heer: Yeah. And here’s the other the other thing about the taking responsibility in the moment or not is it’s so also that also is so tied with judgment. We live in a world where we didn’t come in judging, but we learn to. And when you learn to do something, especially as a fundamental point of view of your reality, that wasn’t yours, you fight to the death to maintain it and prove that it’s right.

Dr. Dain Heer: Because it wasn’t right, it wasn’t yours. You buy it now, and now you have to prove that it’s right because you chose to buy it as yours. And so in this area of responsibility for a choice or how something is showing up, what people think is absolving myself of responsibility is the only moment where where I cannot judge myself for having chosen it.

Dr. Dain Heer: And once again, we’re in the judgment cycle. So it’s not just it’s not just our judgments of us or our judgments of the outside world, and then doing the blame, shame, regret and guilt game that takes us out of the driver’s seat of our lives and and makes us a reactive element. It’s that we we have another layer of judgment outside of that where we’re judging, we’re trying to get out of judgment.

Dr. Dain Heer: Oftentimes, like I’m not wrong is somebody else’s wrong. And so the the difficulty is a lot of people think, if I’m taking responsibility for it, then I did something wrong. No, you didn’t do anything wrong. You just chose something that’s not effective. It’s like if you go to paint your house, you know, and you’re having a weird streak one day and you decide to paint it hot pink, and after a week or two, you’re like, what the hell did I just do?

Dr. Dain Heer: You’re not wrong. You were making a choice in the moment that that’s not having the effect that you desire. And this is where we go to get that we’re not wrong for the choices that we make. But once again, wrong and right are the basis of judgment. And so I think we have this thing, an access to clearing statement, which is right and wrong, good and bad, and pod, all nine shorts, boys, POV pads, bases, creations and beyond.

Dr. Dain Heer: That sounds like absolute gobbledygook until you use it.

Dean Pohlman: But it sounds like gobbledygook.

Dr. Dain Heer: Thank you. Yeah, right. And and the thing is, if you actually start using it, though, what you do is you have the ability to in the moment where you’re judging, you have the moment, you have the ability to stop and you cut it off at its source. Because right in the middle of that is this thing called POC and Pod, which stands for going back to the point of creation of the the choice.

Dr. Dain Heer: You made to make a different choice, to undo the solidity of that choice. Because the universe doesn’t function from a polarized point of view, we do in our minds and in the world we live in. And this is about undoing it.

Dean Pohlman: Okay, so I’m going to go back to, I’m just I just had a flashback to the last conversation that we did, and you were talking about this concept of owning something, of owning a belief. And in the previous conversation, we had one of the tools that we talked about was, looking at the thoughts that you have and then asking yourself, is that mine or does it belong to someone else?

Dean Pohlman: And I had a moment with that. About a month ago, I started doing been through a lot of therapists, and I’ve done a lot of cognitive behavioral therapy. And, you know, I think intuitively, I knew that that was reaching. It’s, you know, it’s I was plateauing with that. And I found a, somatic experience person who does a lot of stuff with Naam, and she also does eMDR.

Dean Pohlman: And we kind of trace back this, I think we were talking about my, my own need to be productive, to feel productive, to feel like I was getting things done, and how that was kind of governing a lot of my life and how that was getting in the way of my happiness, how I was getting in my relationships and showing up in a lot of places.

Dean Pohlman: And ultimately, we traced that back and got to this point where I realized, I guess we realized together that most of this desire for productivity wasn’t mine. It was my mom’s and so going back to this thing of like, do I own this? And realizing, no, I don’t, this is something, this is my mom’s, this isn’t all mine.

Dean Pohlman: And you know, in the subconscious that I was exploring and in the feeling world, not so much in the logical world. My, my therapist asked me to assign, like, what percentage do you think this is yours? And what’s your mom’s? And I said, well, like 75. So, you know, in the moment I’m like, okay, so I’m letting go of 75% of this need to be productive and recognizing, okay, that part does not belong to me.

Dean Pohlman: So that was that was something that I remembered from our conversation. And as you were, you know, talking about taking responsibility in the moment, that that was a tool that I remember being something to, I don’t know, make that decision of, I don’t know how to use the exact terms that you’re using. These are always fun.

Dean Pohlman: It’s always fun jumping back into language that you haven’t used in a while, and you’re like, we’re going to get this. We’re going to get on the same page eventually. But but we’re going to need some back and forth first, you know?

Dr. Dain Heer: Well, you know, the beauty of it is it the words are far less relevant than the energy. You know. And you’re conveying the energy beautifully. And that. Thank you. That idea of is this mine. I’ve when I first came to access 25 years ago, before I started being part of co-creating it, Gary, the founder, said to me, 98% of your thoughts, feelings and emotions don’t belong to you, and 98% of your judgments are things that you bought.

Dr. Dain Heer: And I went, what? And so this idea of, is this mine or who does this belong to is such a vital element that I use it in every session I do, every class, I facilitate so much of what I look at with myself because I’m continuously desiring more and changing more all the time. And when you when you talk about this like this, if you look at this, this drive to perform is such a, a huge element of who you are, quote unquote.

Dr. Dain Heer: And simultaneously you realize, oh my God, I bought this is mine when I was a little kid from somebody, which is exactly what we done with almost all of our points of view. And yet we think they’re ours. And then and if you can look at it, there’s there’s two elements here. What’s true always makes you lighter. A lie always makes you heavier.

Dr. Dain Heer: So if you can if, if one of the because one of the other things that occurs with these major life themes that we have like, like for you, you know, being so driven to succeed, there’s an element of that that is actually you. That’s just how you’re wired. If we put you on, you know, if if you’re on a on a deserted island, you’re going to be one of the people to survive because that’s who you are.

Dr. Dain Heer: And then so there’s that, there’s the gift of that. There’s the potency, the power of that, the the greatness of that. And we all have it. We all have some element of power, potency, greatness. And then concurrent with it is doing it the way somebody else would like taking their package of judgments and points of view about how this shows up, how I have to do it, what I’ve got to fight against, what all the problems are and how it’s going to be a difficulty for me.

Dr. Dain Heer: And we add that to it. So we take a lot of times where it’s naturally us, and then we add somebody else’s reality to it. And now we’re walking forward with both. And the things that show up as if by magic. The things that show up with ease are where we’re truly being us, and the things where we create this problem over and over and over is where we bought some point of view of reality that’s not ours.

Dean Pohlman: Is tied to the lease that you have bought from someone else.

Dr. Dain Heer: Say that again.

Dean Pohlman: Are you seeing that rumination is tied to beliefs that we’ve bought from someone else?

Dr. Dain Heer: When you say rumination, what do you mean by that?

Dean Pohlman: I guess, well, when I say rumination, I’m thinking about when you are stuck on a problem and you just keep thinking about it over and over again, and you don’t move anywhere, you’re just kind of stuck in this thought of, you know, you’re stuck on this one spot of, oh, there’s a problem here, and you just keep thinking about it.

Dean Pohlman: You don’t have any progress on it. It’s like it’s almost like a, you know, or a trauma, I guess.

Dr. Dain Heer: Yeah. Well that’s a that’s a huge element of doing something because. Well, so let’s take that even a step further. And what I would do is one of the and and by the way, I’ll present all kinds of things because it may be this, it may be this, it may be this because we each put together our recipe or individual recipe differently.

Dr. Dain Heer: And when you get to the thing that it is, it lightens up. So, so rumination. What I would do is I’d take that one step further in. The question I would ask is, is it even my rumination? Because the whole idea of, I’m going to sit here and I’m going to wait until all the lights are green before I leave my house is a thing a lot of our parents had as a way of trying to never choose anything wrong, and we learn from them.

Dr. Dain Heer: This is a valid form of navigating reality because that’s what we saw all around us, and it’s what we perceived energetically. And 99% of these things that we picked up are things we perceived energetically, because little kids are really energetically aware, you know, when mommy or daddy are upset, they know it, even if mommy or daddy don’t say anything.

Dr. Dain Heer: And so it’s not just upset that we pick up, we pick up the very energetic structure of their realities, and then we move forward with it.

Dean Pohlman: And by energetic you’re talking about the things that are not spoken. You’re talking about. Yeah, sub the subconscious or like the feelings that are being given off. Not necessarily sad, which yeah. I have, thought a lot about that. And anyway, continue what you’re going. So I’m just, I’m just clarifying so that everyone else is kind of on the same page too.

Dr. Dain Heer: Yeah. And that’s exactly what I’m talking about. And please always clarify. And, and so the, the thing that quantum physics tells us is it’s that energetic interaction that starts are tuning fork vibrating in a particular way. But so here’s the interesting part is, is we’ll see some of the same physical actualization, the same physical reality show up.

Dr. Dain Heer: Like for example, if mom was always insecure and so she had to prove her value by succeeding and simultaneously she was poor. Well, that’s if you take all that together. Like if you saw somebody with that and you were like, oh, and you just sort of tapped into their world and got their, their general vibe of these things.

Dr. Dain Heer: Well, quantum physics tells us that what we do when we open up is we start vibrating like other people. So you’re tuning her tuning fork is doing this. You’re tuning fork is now doing this, and now you’re resonating in a way that’s similar to the energies you grew up around the most. But now you’re going to have it show up in your own way.

Dr. Dain Heer: You’re vibrating like this. It’s like each of us sings a song in a different way, but we’re singing the same song. So you’re singing that song, you’re vibrating that way, but it shows up for you in sometimes in very similar ways to the way it does for her or dad or whomever around us. But you’ll it’ll show up in its own way with you.

Dr. Dain Heer: So you have your own recipe. And so the, the idea of this is there’s also the way to get to what we’re looking for is to start asking questions instead of coming to conclusions and judgments. You know, and the question, like you were saying, is this mind who does this belong to? And then some other questions like, how does it get any better than this?

Dr. Dain Heer: Whenever something good or bad happens to open the door even wider for more to show up, what else is possible? I’ve never considered what’s it going to take to change? This was right about me and what’s right about this. I’m not getting and what else is possible. I’ve never considered which I said already because I like that one a lot.

Dean Pohlman: Yeah, I like I like that. So I’m thinking, as you were saying, that last bit is so a lot of these vibrations or energies that you adopted when you were young came from your parents. So how do you start to become aware of and let go of some of these unwanted vibrations, especially when you’ve gotten to the point you realize that they’re not working for you anymore?

Dr. Dain Heer: Yeah, well, there are many ways, you know, when I facilitate people and do classes, it’s at some point it’s a lot of what we end up working on. Usually, no matter what the subject of the class is. And so one of the things for listeners, for your listeners might be to write down, is anywhere from 3 to 100 of your most limiting points of view.

Dr. Dain Heer: You know, start small, let’s say three, like three of your biggies that are like they keep coming up over and over and over and then just look at it and go, is it mine?

Dr. Dain Heer: And people, you know, we’re, we’re, we live in a world in which we think everything is mental, but in actuality everything is energetic. Mental is the judgment we attach to make it right and structured in a way that works for other people, blah, blah, blah. So the first hint is this mind, you’ll get it, yes or no really fast.

Dr. Dain Heer: Like before you even complete the sentence, that’s your awareness. Don’t try to figure it out. Don’t try to logic it. Hey, thumbs up to, you know, I don’t know if people are watching, but you know how zoom does that? Some people. Yes. Yeah. Yay. And I’m Italian, so I know I’m not really, but I should be because I talk with my hands.

Dr. Dain Heer: And then if you look and go, okay, is this mine? And you get to know, then look and go, okay, who does it belong to? Who did I buy this from? And another thing that might help is go. How old am I being when I do this? Like how old was I when I bought this? Because one of the other things that occurs that affects the entire course of our future is we’ll have some situation occur at a very young age, often before we could talk or is we’re just because little kids, they don’t have a mental construct, you know, they just are energetic.

Dr. Dain Heer: They’re being they’re so highly aware and we never give them credit for that.

Dr. Dain Heer: And you can just ask, how old am I being? Because for a lot of things, there will be some situation that occurred that was traumatic for us or traumatic for somebody around us. And we locked in a point of view of this is reality, and I need to avoid it. Or reluctant, a point of view of oh, I need to try to heal my mom by taking this suffering point or pain point away.

Dr. Dain Heer: And when we do it, especially from that perspective, we carry it with us forever because we don’t want it to ever go back to them. And so here we are, struggling with money, just like mom struggled with money going, wow, because that’s an a lot of these things that we’re experiencing are socially acceptable. You know, to struggle with money is socially acceptable.

Dr. Dain Heer: To have so much money you don’t know what to do. It is not socially acceptable. You’re one of those bad people, especially. And now. But wait, wait, wait, wait. All of that is judgment. All of that is this is right. This is wrong. And so if you find yourself struggling with money like mom and or like dad or some combination of both, you can just.

Dr. Dain Heer: The first step starts with acknowledging that it’s not yours. The next step for me would be putting it, using that clearing statement on it, because I don’t know anything else. You could probably visualize and go back to the moment and undo it. There. But what I have people do is I say, hey, how old are you being? Like, how old were you when this first started?

Dr. Dain Heer: And then tell me what happened.

Dean Pohlman: That’s POC. That’s that’s POC point of creation. Yep.

Dr. Dain Heer: Exactly.

Dean Pohlman: And then pot is.

Dr. Dain Heer: Pot is the point of destruction. And the point of destruction is where you take your creative ability and you twist it, and now it’s being used against you. And so that unlocks simultaneously.

Dean Pohlman: Okay. So tell me more about the point of destruction.

Dr. Dain Heer: Or the here’s the here, how deep you want to go down the rabbit hole?

Dean Pohlman: Deep enough to understand it. Okay.

Dr. Dain Heer: Okay. So basically it’s like this. Have you ever noticed that you walk around in a lot of judgment of you, no matter how much work you do?

Dr. Dain Heer: Yeah. And we would all say yeah. And even in a role that you and I have as facilitators of others, you know we can we there’s so much of the time still where we walk around in some sense of self-judgment, a huge amount of that stems from the idea and the lie that you are inherently wrong or bad as a being.

Dr. Dain Heer: I would say evil. You know, you’re inherently bad or wrong as a being, and what you’re really doing with this point of destruction is the awareness that in order to institute a limitation. Okay, so let’s back up our idea and access is we are infinite beings, and a being that big cannot fit inside of a body this small as an infinite being.

Dr. Dain Heer: There’s some way bigger going on. Our mind just can’t fathom it and way bigger that we are. But in order to institute any limitation, because if if you’re truly an infinite being, would you have any limitations? No, no. And yet if I say remember what’s true makes you lighter or light makes you heavier. So if I say you’re an infinite being and it makes you lighter, then that’s what’s actually true.

Dr. Dain Heer: Your mind just doesn’t understand it. And so if as an infinite being, you wouldn’t have any limitations, well, how do we create these limitations? Well, part of it is by destroy or destroying some element of what we’re willing to be, and we can’t actually destroy it. We can just put up a wall so it doesn’t show up. And so the POC takes care of the point of creation, the choice for limiting ourselves in whatever way the pod takes care of where we’re putting up a block so our being doesn’t get in to undo whatever that limitation is so that we can maintain that limited choice.

Dr. Dain Heer: Yeah, sounds like rocket science. It’s really simple in the use of it. The explanation of it is like what? Because it’s meant to bypass your mind.

Dean Pohlman: Let’s do it. Let’s can we can we use them?

Dr. Dain Heer: Yeah. What do you want to work on?

Dean Pohlman: So it looks like.

Dr. Dain Heer: Oh, God. Yeah. Can we do can we do something you’d actually like to work on? Because. Because people perceive energy and you perceive energy and they know whether it works or not.

Dean Pohlman: No, no, no, I’m I’m I am no, I am no stranger to being being, courageously vulnerable on this, on this podcast. So, let’s talk about my desire to or my need to feel productive since we’re already on the topic.

Dr. Dain Heer: Okay, cool. So, we’ve you’ve covered this, but let’s, let’s, let’s see if anything else shows up or changes as we go about it this way. Okay. So you mentioned so that need to be productive. The first thing that comes up in my mind, which is something you already talked about. So truth is it yours. Partly yeah. And so here’s the other part about this.

Dr. Dain Heer: It’s really vital to get is when you get either. Yes really strongly that means no. And if you get partly what that means is you bought some part of it is yours. When it wasn’t. And the way buying it is yours when it wasn’t is like let’s say you’re happy little kid. You grew up around somebody who’s really sad.

Dr. Dain Heer: Well after soaking in that energy for a year after year, day after day it seeps in. And at that point you think it’s you which is buying it as yours when it wasn’t okay. Or we try to heal somebody, all kinds of reasons. So let’s do this first. So everything you did to buy it is yours. When it wasn’t all the times you bought it is yours when it wasn’t.

Dr. Dain Heer: Will you destroy and uncreated all that please.

Dean Pohlman: Okay.

Dr. Dain Heer: Right. Wrong. Good and bad part and POC. All 100 short supplies pervades base’s creations and Beyond’s who my friend. There’s a bit of energy on that. Okay, so.

Dean Pohlman: Just I’m basically letting go of judgments of whether or not it was right or wrong when I decided to act on the need to feel productive.

Dr. Dain Heer: You’re letting go. The clearing statement. We have an explanation of the clearing statement. It’s at the clearing statement. Arcom because we’re so brilliant. And now we do. It’s this. You guys know.

Dean Pohlman: You guys are crushing it at buying domains.

Dr. Dain Heer: Right? We are marketing geniuses there. Okay, so and it’s about a 20 minute explanation of it, but so yes, that’s exactly it. Your first part is you’re letting go of the judgment, but you’re also letting go of all of these energetic structures that hold it in place. And then you’re asking to go back to the point of creation of where you instituted this limited point of view and ask it to dissolve.

Dr. Dain Heer: And I was, you know, I used to try to explain it whatever I was on this radio interview in Mexico and I explained it, you know, I told the lady and she’s like, let’s do it. So we did it. And I was trying to explain. And she goes, oh, it’s just quantum physics. And I went, oh yeah, that thank you.

Dr. Dain Heer: You know, is it’s like, but what this is, is a tool for choice when you’re ready to have something different. Part of the reason why somebody has to work so hard to create something different is because they’re not able, they don’t have a tool to go back to the point of the creation of the limited points of view.

Dr. Dain Heer: So they’re continuously they’re under it and they have to work against it, work over it, work against it, work over it. What this does is over time and it doesn’t occur with just one pot. I wish it did, trust me, but over time what happens? Like if this thing comes up over and over and over, every time you notice the energy go everything that is poking pot.

Dr. Dain Heer: And that’s the short form for the clearing statement. And what happens is eventually it doesn’t come up. Six months from now, you won’t even remember you had the problem, which is how that works. But anyway, and having done what we just did, does it feel any different to you, better or worse or the same? And there’s no right answer.

Dean Pohlman: Jill’s less like mine.

Dr. Dain Heer: Okay, perfect. So that’s and and if you’ll notice in, you know, 30s of doing this, it’s like it feels less like mine. What what that means is you are less likely to step into the same pile of poo in the future. Okay, so now if we look at it. So let’s ask this who does it belong to that you haven’t acknowledged,

Dean Pohlman: My mom.

Dr. Dain Heer: And.

Dean Pohlman: My dad.

Dr. Dain Heer: Yeah. And also how much? See, because one of the other things that that because we’re not we’re not taught to look from this perspective of unpacking these things. But one of the other things that will stick us a lot is our mom. She has her own whatever she had before she got together with your dad. Then your dad has his own thing, and once they get together, they have that.

Dr. Dain Heer: But they also have the interaction of where their unique thing in this area shows up for us. And what we’ll do is we’ll buy it from mom, we’ll buy it from dad, and then we’ll buy the way in which all of those things relate. And then we call that us. So, so.

Dean Pohlman: Like, does that turn into like two plus two into eight. Yeah okay. So it’s through synergy and makes it more powerful you know.

Dr. Dain Heer: Yeah okay. And it basically turns two plus two into more like 8,800,086 because well because of that there’s because of the way the synergy works with that. So everything that is and everything that wasn’t accessible before to change or to get to or to acknowledge that is now where you destroy and upgrade all that. Please.

Dean Pohlman: Okay.

Dr. Dain Heer: Okay. Right. Wrong. Good and bad, bad and park all 100 shorts. Boys, perverts, Macy’s creations and beyond. Some people out there like he’s doing voodoo witchcraft. I’m like maybe. But I’m happy. Okay.

Dean Pohlman: And to be clear, I did my best to clear as much as I could in, you know, 10s. So it probably would take a few rounds in this. Yeah. Truly. Get there.

Dr. Dain Heer: Yeah. And see, here’s the beauty of this is you don’t have to try to. It’s your willingness to have something different. Because the other limitation we have on changes, if I change this, it could be it could mean this and this and this. And I’m not willing to have. So we will limit the amount of change we’re willing to have based on our projection of what is going to occur that we don’t want to happen.

Dr. Dain Heer: So in this excuse me, in this, the only thing required is actually choosing to change it because I could say, hey, will you destroy it and create this thing and be like, no. And I’m like, cool, no problem. Your choice. You know, your life should be your choice. And also, I want to make this very clear. You know more about your life than anybody else.

Dr. Dain Heer: I don’t know as much about your life as you do. Never follow me or anybody else. Follow you.

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Dr. Dain Heer: Now that I said that. So how is it feeling? Doing better, worse, or the same? And there is no right answer.

Dean Pohlman: There’s resistance. And I’ve explored this already so I can talk about it because I know what it is. So the resistance is, well, if I don’t have this feeling, will I? If I don’t have this drive, will I continue to be successful? Will I be able to have the life that I have now, and be able to have the relationships that I do?

Dean Pohlman: Will I be able to, you know, maintain the community that I have so that’s the fear versus the other fear of, well, if you keep doing what you’re doing now, you’re going to continue. I’ll continue to feel the pressure of, you know, of not feeling like I’m enough, feeling like I have to create more. So.

Dr. Dain Heer: Well, okay, so two things. And number one, I am so grateful for your awareness, like the level of awareness you’re willing to have and the vulnerability in going there no matter what it is. So thank you. And that is a gift. And if more of us would allow ourselves that, we would have so much more available. So two other things.

Dr. Dain Heer: Number one, remind me to show you that fear is a lie, and I’ll do that in just a moment. But I need to address the if I don’t have this drive, if I don’t have this drive, will I ever succeed? Will you say that three times, please?

Dean Pohlman: If I don’t have this drive, will I continue to succeed if I don’t have this drive or I continue to succeed if I don’t have this drive to continue to succeed?

Dr. Dain Heer: So all of the secret, hidden, invisible, covert, unseen, unsaid, unacknowledged and unexposed implants and expanse creating that we destroy and uncreated.

Dean Pohlman: Please say that one more time.

Dr. Dain Heer: All of the hidden, basically the hidden and all kinds of hidden implants and explains creating that basically whatever’s creating that we destroy an uncreative place.

Dr. Dain Heer: Truth.

Dean Pohlman: Give me, give me, give me five seconds to the story. Create and and destroy.

Dr. Dain Heer: Now all you got to do is say yes when you’re willing to. And I’ll run the clearing statement and that is the thing that actually destroys and upgrades it.

Dean Pohlman: Okay. Yes I’m.

Dr. Dain Heer: Willing. Thank you. Right and wrong. Good and bad. Button pack all 100 shirts, boys hats, basics, creations and beyond. Now, the thing about this is I’m so glad this particular thing that we just did occurred because we think it’s your willingness where are you? Like, I’m willing to have something different. I don’t care how it shows up that when when I say, well, you destroy and and create, what I’m saying is we destroy the structure, the walls that you put around you and, create means we take your creative energy out of holding those walls in place because it’s our creative energy reason to hold those in place and allow it to flow into

Dr. Dain Heer: your life. Is creation wherever it needs to go. And when you say yes, it’s your willingness to change. You don’t have to do the work of destroying it and creating it. It’s your choice. Plus, this clearing statement that actually does the work and that is based on the consciousness of you, the being that you are, that has been looking for something different for friggin ever and always seem to get, no matter what we do, is these tiny baby steps and we have to work so friggin hard and be so present with every friggin thing to create any little change.

Dr. Dain Heer: One of the things I love about success is you willing to change. Then let’s friggin change it now. Let’s make big leaps every time we go to change something, or at least most of the time when we go to change something. Okay, so you and so you mentioned the resistance. I still haven’t let me talk about the fear for a moment.

Dr. Dain Heer: So would an infinite being truly have fear? No, no. But we throw it around like it’s candy in this world, people. And I used to man before access, and I had done every dance, self-help, metaphysical, psychological, spiritual thing that I could. And I was still overcome by fear most of my life.

Dr. Dain Heer: I was in my chiropractic office when I was still a chiropractor, and the only thing I was brand new to the to Santa Barbara, and the only thing I could think of was making phone calls to people and other practitioners to let them know I was there, to see if I could create some energy going. And I literally, I’d pick up the phone and I would start shaking with fear, and then I would put down the phone and cry, and I would use the tools that I had at the time and take me an hour, sometimes more, to get over it.

Dr. Dain Heer: And I’d eventually make the phone call. But it was like, Jesus, this fear is paralyzing me. So this is why I want to present this, because I can imagine a lot of people probably function from this in different areas. So if an infinite being wouldn’t have fear. What that means is we have other choices. We just haven’t explored them.

Dr. Dain Heer: So can I prove to you and I’m going to try to I’m going to try to prove to you that you don’t have here. Are you ready? Yeah. Okay. So what happens to you in an emergency situation? Do you fall apart or do you get calm, cool and collected and handle the situation and then fall apart later to prove you were afraid?

Dean Pohlman: The latter.

Dr. Dain Heer: Yeah.

Dr. Dain Heer: That right there is proof you don’t actually have fear. Fear is something. So let’s do this for you and all of us. All of us. At about that we have fear and everywhere it’s perpetrated by all kinds of people and also perpetrated by all kinds of people. Because if they can get you to go into fear, then they can get you.

Dr. Dain Heer: They can have more control, and they can have you be less present. They can have you be less of the miracle. You are everything that is times of God’s own. We destroy an uncreated all place, right and wrong, good and bad button buck. All you gotta do is have the willingness, right and wrong, good and bad button Park all 100 shorts boys pervades Macy’s creations and beyond.

Dr. Dain Heer: So, fear is one of three things. It’s something you’re aware of in somebody else’s world. So it’s is this mine or who does this belong to, which we do a lot, you know, like when the pandemic was going on. It’s like the way it, you know, the, you know, how they talk about mass consciousness. Well, I see more mass unconsciousness, to be honest with you, with people at least.

Dr. Dain Heer: But what happens is one person over here will start vibrating like fear, and then it affects this one and then it affects this. So and then when you have enough of them it just affects everybody. And so during the pandemic, there were a lot of people who were living their lives in fear, but it was because it was practically in the air.

Dr. Dain Heer: Well, that’s like who does this belong to? But also there’s and you can do that. Is this actually mind know everything that is part and return to sender with consciousness attached. So there’s that element of fear. There’s another element which is where we misidentified and misapplied excitement. So when something is like over the top energetically we will oftentimes think we’re afraid.

Dr. Dain Heer: Like if you’re going to go skydiving, I know so many people like I’ve been skydiving, running on a horse where, especially horses because I love horses and I get to be with people on a lot of their first horseback rides. And as they get better and a lot of them want to run and they’re like, I’m afraid I’m like, are you afraid?

Dr. Dain Heer: Are you excited? Wait, is they’re like, oh my God, I’m excited. I’m like, yeah, I get it. When? When did you buy that? This was fear. And they go, oh, there’s a time. And and my favorite story for that is Gary, the founder of access. When he was a little kid, he was going to go on the Ferris wheel for the first time.

Dr. Dain Heer: And it was jumping up and down and pulling on his mom’s skirt, and she looked down and said, now don’t be afraid, dear. He wasn’t afraid. He was excited. But in that moment, he misidentified and misapplied that energy and that intensity of energy as fear. So all of you who misidentified and misapplied the energy and the intensity of that energy of excitement as fear, will you destroy an uncreated all place?

Dr. Dain Heer: I’m just talking to everybody you know. Right and wrong. Good and bad. Button back all 100 shorts boys pervades Macy’s creations and beyond. The last thing about fear. So there’s three things that we’ve covered so far. Who does this belong to? Is it actually mine? Get rid of that pod and return to sender. Is this excitement or fear?

Dr. Dain Heer: Parking pod where I miss identified and misapplied this so you can have the gift that that excitement is. And then the last one is a little bit strange. It’s an implanted point of view, an implant. An implant is, I don’t know where what I mean, I’ve got some sense, but I don’t really know. I just know what answers to implant, which is something that is creating something that’s been put in or that you bought that creates a false version of reality as though it’s more real than what is actually true.

Dr. Dain Heer: And when you’re functioning from an implanted point of view, it’s very intense. And once again, I don’t I’m not somebody who was like, oh, you were implanted by aliens. That’s that’s not what I’m talking about. I don’t think that’s what I’m talking about. I have no idea what I’m talking about. As far as the definition of it, I just know that it reads like that energetically.

Dr. Dain Heer: And when I when I address it that way, it has a way of undoing a lot of stuff beyond the cognitive and beyond our understanding of it. To recognizing that there’s something here that is distracting me from being present with a particular vibration or energy. So if you have fear, you can just go and all that, or you can go, is it mine?

Dr. Dain Heer: I can put all that and return to sender and go, is this excitement that I miss identified a misapplied parking pod? All that so I can have the excitement and what excitement can I have here? How much fun can I have? Because we use it to keep ourselves from being out of control and having too much fun.

Dr. Dain Heer: And then all the implants and plants creating fear as a reality for you and for all of us. And we now destroy and, create all that, please, even if we have no idea what the heck we’re doing. Right and wrong, good and bad, bad and park all 100 shorts, boys, programs, bases, creations and beyond. And that’s the thing about access is can we destroy, create, created even if we have no idea what the heck we’re doing?

Dr. Dain Heer: Recognizing that as we get to more of what’s true for us, we get lighter. And we don’t know how this is this is the other element of this that is so dynamically different. It’s not about figuring out how, it’s not even about figuring out what happened. It’s about acknowledging it and then making a different choice using this clearing statement when we can to undo the choices.

Dr. Dain Heer: In the past because our being would like more consciousness, our planet would like more consciousness. And this is a very fast way of opening that up. And the side benefit is your life gets less limited. You actually start liking being alive a lot more, and you have that thing that we were talking about at the very beginning, agency over your own life.

Dr. Dain Heer: Because now when some pile of crap comes up, rather than thinking, your only choice is to avoid it and shrink into the cracks of the couch, you now go, okay, at least I have some tools that actually work in the moment to change this stuff.

Dean Pohlman: Okay. All right. So taking all of that and then going back to where we left off in the queering statement or is just is that just having the willingness is that that is that it?

Dr. Dain Heer: It is it’s the willingness and that really is it because it’s it’s kind of this beautiful thing of you don’t have to know the how, okay. Like let the universe contribute in actualizing this, in making it happen and changing these things and having them be different for you. But it’s that that intersection of you and the universe and you and consciousness.

Dean Pohlman: Okay. So it’s kind of you just you’re just putting in this thought into the universe rather than you’re taking it and saying, oh, okay, I got to go through this framework of things to do now that I’ve made this decision, you’re just saying, this is what I want. And then putting it into the, you know, which, you know, five years ago, if you asked me to do that, I would have been like, what are you talking about?

Dean Pohlman: That makes sense. I don’t believe in that. And, you know, I didn’t. Yeah, I just didn’t have a any sense of universe or any sense of spiritual belief. I think I think this seems like, you know, and if you were to rephrase it, if you were to say like, put that out as a prayer to some people, they’ll be like, oh, okay, that makes sense to me.

Dean Pohlman: And so, yeah. Anyways, I think there’s a lot of different ways that you could think about this. And if you don’t have any sort of, you know, if you don’t have any sort of experience with, you know, called God the Divine creator, universe, you know, whatever it is called to you, then this sounds that doesn’t make any sense.

Dean Pohlman: But if you have some sort of conception of that and you have some sort of practice with that, then okay, this is this makes sense on that.

Dr. Dain Heer: And that’s the thing for me is I don’t care what you call it. I don’t care if you use it or not. I’m just here to make your life better if I can or, you know, contribute something because it’s been such a gift to me and so many people over the years and, you know, and doing an interview like this, you know, for me, it it’s kind of like I’m going out on a limb a bit by even doing this because there’s a lot of tools I can talk about that are, you know, that make sense to people, but none of them are as effective.

Dr. Dain Heer: Like, that’s not actually true. But the effectiveness level of anything that you do goes up if you actually use this clearing statement. And and they totally get people be like, what are you doing? And like you said, the reference point for God or spirit or universe or whatever it is, you know, it opens up this sense of and it opens up this sense of, there being something larger.

Dr. Dain Heer: And how can we engage with that and have that be part of what we can interact with all the time? In other words, rather than rather than than having all of the miraculous ness outside of us as though we’re not part of it, or as though it’s not our birthright, it’s like actually the real pragmatics and practicality of it is that is actually us and our birthright.

Dr. Dain Heer: And and we’re not we’re not benefiting anyone by suffering.

Dean Pohlman: Yeah.

Dean Pohlman: Well, thank you for bringing us, bringing us into your world and inviting us into your, your world, and showing us, yeah, hopefully inspiring people. With, you know, and I’m saying it in a way that I feel like the way that I’m saying it is, like, it’s almost like under. It’s almost like undervaluing what you’re saying.

Dean Pohlman: It’s almost like, you know, like I’m over here and like, you are here, and I’m, like, moving toward you, and I’m not on this same energy yet. And, yeah, I don’t know if that makes sense.

Dr. Dain Heer: Makes total sense. I’m. I am grateful for the gratitude and and grateful for you, for, you know, day in and day out, putting yourself out there and and inviting other people. And, you know, I’m, I’m part of you know, I just signed up for men flow yoga a couple weeks ago. Also, by the way, I just want to acknowledge, yeah, I was like, all right, you know, so I, I’m grateful.

Dr. Dain Heer: I am grateful for that gift, you know, and it’s and I un, you know, I’m, I’m grateful for the way you present. I’m grateful that you make it easy. I’m grateful that you check in and are like, hey, let’s go, people. You know, I’m I’m grateful for you. Like a brother from another mother.

Dean Pohlman: Awesome, man. Well, thanks for trying that. Yeah. And yeah, I hope to I hope to continue to be reminded of, of access consciousness way of thinking. How can other people, continue to keep up with you and hopefully, you know, move toward this energy?

Dr. Dain Heer: Well, you can go to Doctor Dane here.com. On that website, there’s a, a there are so many things that’s the, so thing is there are so many things. But one of them is an audio called Waking Up. Miraculously. That is exactly what it says. And it’s my gift to you. So if you want, dip your toe in some of the energetics of this and also get more familiar with this clearing statement and how it can actually be used.

Dr. Dain Heer: That is a great place. Also, on all the socials, I got hundreds of videos on YouTube and Insta and it’s all about contributing to you. And we just started something so two other things we have International being You Day coming up on June 22nd, and if you go to being You Datacom, you can be part of that.

Dr. Dain Heer: That’s gifted everybody online. And or if you’re in Mexico City you can come join us live. But it’s it’s a celebration of us and, and the uniqueness and gift of of us being us. And then we have another thing that we we call access dot me, where the last 25 years of classes that we’ve done and access are available for people who.

Dr. Dain Heer: And it’s it’s 275 bucks a month. And we did that so we could contribute as much consciousness to as many people as possible. Because the one thing that will truly create a different a difference in our lives, but also a difference for our world and having a sustainable living earth is more consciousness, more possibilities, less judgment.

Dean Pohlman: Yeah. Be hard. Argue with that. Well, thank you, for all of that. Dana, appreciate your time. Appreciate you sharing that. Guys, we’ll put the links for all this in the description below. Any closing thoughts?

Dr. Dain Heer: What else is possible if you recognize that you are a gift and you always have been.

Dean Pohlman: I’m getting tingly. Thanks.

Dr. Dain Heer: Thank you, my friend. Yeah. All right.

Dean Pohlman: Guys, I hope you enjoyed this. I hope it inspires you to be better, man. Of course, better as a judgment. But that aside, I have to end with the slogan. I hope this inspires you to be a better man. And I’ll see you on the next episode. All right, guys, I hope you enjoyed that interview with Doctor Dain here.

Dean Pohlman: Again. This is called Access Consciousness. I want to remind you, he wanted me to mention this June 22nd being You Day. So we’ll put that link in the description of the show notes. He’s got some great stuff that he creates on his channels. All those link will be in the description below. If you enjoyed this podcast interview on, I encourage you to leave a review.

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